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Cultivating Winner's Mindset

Gratitude, Resilience, Fortitude

Gordo Byrn
Jun 13, 2023
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Filling my son’s life with happy memories

In Part One we discussed A Framework for Meaning.

In Part Two I made the case for undertaking An Ambitious Journey.

When we “get it right” our journey provides structure to, and satisfaction in, our daily living.

Today, I want to touch on mindset, specifically, what I call Winner’s Mindset.

There are three components to this way of thinking:

  1. A Daily Win

  2. Gratitude

  3. Persistence

A Daily Win

Define the game so you can get an early win, daily.

It doesn’t need to be complex.

  • Wake Up, Win

  • Cup of Coffee, Win

  • Two Glasses of Water, Win

  • Chop a Fruit Salad, Win

  • Clean the Kitchen, Win

The ability to get “big” things done starts with a series of little things.

But the early win isn’t solely about winning.

It’s about mindset.

What we are doing is:

  • Noticing Action

  • Reinforcing Action

  • Giving Ourselves A Mental Pat-On-The-Back

Unsure what to do?

  • Ask yourself => What’s important now?

  • Ask someone nearby => What needs to be done?

Screens down, get up, take one positive action.

While this habit will boost productivity, this isn’t about working all the time.

The idea is to build a habit of action then notice the positive impact of action.

Each evening, write out the wins-of-the-day. Then, write out the most important thing to complete tomorrow morning. This habit, of laying out “tomorrow’s win,” is making a small promise to yourself.

I’ve coached successful people who fail to notice how much they are winning. By making it obvious to yourself, you will direct your mindset and build:

  • Self Confidence

  • Serenity

  • Life Satisfaction

These flow from stacking daily wins.

Define the rules of the game so you control the win. Play games where you win by doing.


Gratitude

Do you have the capacity to see your good fortune?

Answer with a simple “yes” or “no.”

If you’re a “no” then I recommend a change of environment.

Expose yourself to people without the ability to choose, who don’t have the opportunity to undertake an Ambitious Journey.

Still having trouble seeing your good fortune?

Have a deep look at how you’re living.

Perhaps, you’re working towards the wrong goals. My life has undergone major changes every decade, or so. Before each of these major shifts has been a year, or more, where I felt I was in the wrong “place.”

“Place” is a mindset.

“Place” is my headspace.

“Place” is where I have directed my focus.

To boost gratitude, I need to make a habit of directing my attention to the many positive things around me.

The idea being to create positive momentum so we sustain our efforts through the inevitable setbacks and challenges.


Persist, Wisely

Action + Gratitude = Persistence

The first two habits power our ability to persist.

Notice all three habits:

  1. Action

  2. Gratitude

  3. Persistence

There will be normal ups & downs with all three.

When one disappears, pause and consider if you’re pushing too hard.

Ideally, learn from the choices & habits that knock you off the virtuous circle.

Action - Gratitude - Persistence

You’ve Already Won

Get someone on your team to keep you from taking things too far.

What is too far?

  • An excessive focus on other people, external results

  • Damaging our health

  • Losing, or never forming, intimate relationships

  • Compromising our future

  • Downward negative spirals

That’s the Dark Side.

The Bright Side is where I hope you’ll find your mindset.

Along your journey, I hope you realize you have become…

  1. An action-oriented person

  2. Who does what they say

  3. Who is grateful for life

  4. And has the ability to persist over time and through setbacks

In these moments of clarity, notice that you have used your Ambitious Journey to create an integrated personality.

You might achieve your goal, you might not.

This integrated self is the prize.

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